January 10, 2023
These are the 10 Best Lubes for Gay Men
Christopher Ehlers READ TIME: 11 MIN.
It goes without saying that the wrong lube can totally mess up a good time. But with thousands of options on the market, what's the best lube to use, and why?
Almost every sexually active adult likely has an opinion on this, but the folks over at Sexual Alpha recently reviewed a bunch of lubes to take some of the guess work out of playtime.
Here are their top 10 picks:
"This lube powder has amassed a cult following, especially amongst anal sex and fisting enthusiasts. It was originally made for the veterinary industry, but people quickly figured out it's an amazing way to take control of your own lube. The most common approach is to mix a small amount of powder with boiling water and adjust the ratios according to how thick or thin you want your lube to be. If you prefer oil-based lube, you could add a liquid oil for a super slick experience. The fact that one small bottle makes up to 8 gallons of lube means you'll probably only have to buy a bottle every five years or so (depending on how busy you get, of course) making it the most cost-effective way to buy lube. Preparation does take a little while, so I recommend making up a batch at a time. It does go off eventually though, so don't make more than you'd use in a week or two." $41, Uber Kinky.
9. Swiss Navy Water-Based Lube
"If you want a water-based lube, Swiss Navy is easily one of the best on the market. It's got a great, almost gel-like consistency so it stays where you put it and, for a water-based lube, it lasts surprisingly long. This lube isn't made specifically for anal sex but is definitely thick enough to be used for that. And if you enjoy using lube for masturbation, toys, or you also have sex with vagina-owners, Swiss Navy is versatile enough to be used there too. The best part? This is one of the best value lubes out there." $10, The Enhanced Male.
8. Pjur Back Door Silicone Anal Lube
"If you're worried about pain during anal sex or have trouble fully relaxing your muscles but don't want to lose sensation entirely, Pjur has managed to find the perfect balance with their Back Door Silicone Anal Lube. It's a slight anesthetic, dulling some of the pain that might come from anal, and it's also a gentle muscle relaxant, which helps literally everything. What's great though, is that it's not so strong that it cuts you off from the experience entirely. You still feel very in touch with your body which is such an important thing when using numbing products." $24, She Vibe.
7. AH! YES Natural Oil Based Personal Lubricant
"If you and your partner are fluid-bonded (you don't use condoms) and you want a natural alternative to some of the other lubes on the market, this could be just the thing you're looking for. This lube is made from a mixture of all-natural certified organic plant oils. It comes in two forms, a squeeze tube and individual single-use applicators. The applicators are designed to introduce the lube inside your body, so they're perfect for anal sex." $22, She Vibe.
6. Passion Lube
"Anal sex can be a bit painful if you're not used to it. So what do you do if you want to be intimate with your partner but just can't get the hang of bottoming yet? Well, along with open communication with your partner and taking it one step at a time, you could also try and get a desensitizing lube, like Passion Lube. This lubricant has 2% Lidocaine for a slight numbing effect to help you relax your sphincter muscles and enjoy the ride! It's also water-based, so it's latex and silicone friendly – use whatever condoms or toys you want!" $30, The Enhanced Male.