Watch: Actor Charlie Carver Opens Up About Struggles with Coming Out as Gay

Tuesday May 19, 2020

Actor Charlie Carver
Actor Charlie Carver  (Source:Instagram / @charliecarver)

Actor Charlie Carver, who will star in the highly anticipated "The Batman" movie, was the recipient of the GLSEN Gamechanger Award this year and used his acceptance speech to talk about his feelings about coming out as gay.

Back in 2016, "The Leftovers" actor came out as gay in an Instagram post. Speaking with GLSEN, he said he "always knew I wanted to do something with my life that might help young people in their relationship to shame."

"I didn't want a spectacle. I just wanted to reveal this part of myself in a kind of way I wish I'd been able to share all those years ago in school as a simple wonderful fact of who I was," he continued. "It was my hope that by writing this post and sharing why I'd arrived at the decision to come out professionally that some young person out there could feel the change that I felt was coming and had been coming and would be coming—the change we all hope for and work for and wait for in our lives as LGBTQ folks."

GLSEN was set to hold its annual New York Respect Awards gala in the spring but will now hold a week of virtual fundraising called Respect Everywhere, according to Variety.

Carver went on to say that he grew up with a supportive family, including his twin brother Max Carver but said school was a bit difficult to navigate.

"There was just this abiding sense that school wasn't safe or more than anything, if I let my guard down and if I fully relaxed into a state of belonging that something swift and terrible would come and find me," Carver said. "And I recognize now that that thing I was so afraid of, the thing I was sort of running from and trying to manage, was my own shame."

He added:

"LGBTQ kids really suffer from the shaming they interject on the internet, often at school and sadly sometimes at home and it affects them for the rest of their lives. But I believe LGBTQ people are resilient and in some ways particularly special. I think we seem inherently capable at thinking compassionately, acting courageously, working creatively and living in community. But those qualities, those essential qualities can really only emerge in an affirmative, safe and encouraging environment."

Carver was presented with his award by his "The Boys in the Band" costars, an upcoming Netflix remake of the revived Broadway play starring Jim Parsons, Matt Bomer, Zachary Quinto, Andrew Rannells, Robin de Jesús, Tuc Watkins, Brain Hutchison and Michael Benjamin Washington.

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