These are the 10 Best Lubes for Gay Men

by Christopher Ehlers

EDGE Media Network Contributor

Saturday February 4, 2023
Originally published on January 10, 2023

These are the 10 Best Lubes for Gay Men
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It goes without saying that the wrong lube can totally mess up a good time. But with thousands of options on the market, what's the best lube to use, and why?

Almost every sexually active adult likely has an opinion on this, but the folks over at Sexual Alpha recently reviewed a bunch of lubes to take some of the guess work out of playtime.

Here are their top 10 picks:

10. J-Lube

"This lube powder has amassed a cult following, especially amongst anal sex and fisting enthusiasts. It was originally made for the veterinary industry, but people quickly figured out it's an amazing way to take control of your own lube. The most common approach is to mix a small amount of powder with boiling water and adjust the ratios according to how thick or thin you want your lube to be. If you prefer oil-based lube, you could add a liquid oil for a super slick experience. The fact that one small bottle makes up to 8 gallons of lube means you'll probably only have to buy a bottle every five years or so (depending on how busy you get, of course) making it the most cost-effective way to buy lube. Preparation does take a little while, so I recommend making up a batch at a time. It does go off eventually though, so don't make more than you'd use in a week or two." $41, Uber Kinky.

9. Swiss Navy Water-Based Lube

"If you want a water-based lube, Swiss Navy is easily one of the best on the market. It's got a great, almost gel-like consistency so it stays where you put it and, for a water-based lube, it lasts surprisingly long. This lube isn't made specifically for anal sex but is definitely thick enough to be used for that. And if you enjoy using lube for masturbation, toys, or you also have sex with vagina-owners, Swiss Navy is versatile enough to be used there too. The best part? This is one of the best value lubes out there." $10, The Enhanced Male.

8. Pjur Back Door Silicone Anal Lube

"If you're worried about pain during anal sex or have trouble fully relaxing your muscles but don't want to lose sensation entirely, Pjur has managed to find the perfect balance with their Back Door Silicone Anal Lube. It's a slight anesthetic, dulling some of the pain that might come from anal, and it's also a gentle muscle relaxant, which helps literally everything. What's great though, is that it's not so strong that it cuts you off from the experience entirely. You still feel very in touch with your body which is such an important thing when using numbing products." $24, She Vibe.

7. AH! YES Natural Oil Based Personal Lubricant

"If you and your partner are fluid-bonded (you don't use condoms) and you want a natural alternative to some of the other lubes on the market, this could be just the thing you're looking for. This lube is made from a mixture of all-natural certified organic plant oils. It comes in two forms, a squeeze tube and individual single-use applicators. The applicators are designed to introduce the lube inside your body, so they're perfect for anal sex." $22, She Vibe.

6. Passion Lube

"Anal sex can be a bit painful if you're not used to it. So what do you do if you want to be intimate with your partner but just can't get the hang of bottoming yet? Well, along with open communication with your partner and taking it one step at a time, you could also try and get a desensitizing lube, like Passion Lube. This lubricant has 2% Lidocaine for a slight numbing effect to help you relax your sphincter muscles and enjoy the ride! It's also water-based, so it's latex and silicone friendly — use whatever condoms or toys you want!" $30, The Enhanced Male.

5. Wet Water-Based Premium Lubricant

"It's not all about silicone lubes — there are also some pretty great water-based lubes suitable for gay men! First things first — yes, water-based lubes aren't as slick or as long-lasting as silicone lubes, and Wet Water Based Premium Lubricant is no exception. But this lube has a special formula and a gel-like consistency, so it lasts way longer than other water-based lubes on the market and also protects your body from friction-related injuries better. And the best thing is that you can use it freely with any sex toys or condoms you might want to use. You're never at risk of damaging them with a water-based lube, no matter what they're made out of." $8, The Enhanced Male.

4. Swiss Navy Silcone Lubricant

"It's important you get a lube that doesn't dry out quickly so you get a longer and uninterrupted play session. Swiss Navy Silicone Lubricant is designed just for that — it lasts longer, so you can have fun longer. Since it's silicone-based, this lube won't get sticky — one of the most annoying things about (bad) water-based products.

"It's also completely body-safe and hypoallergenic, with no added flavoring or fragrances, so there is nothing that could irritate your private parts. On top of that, it is enriched with vitamin E, which is great for your skin." $20, The Enhanced Male.

3. Gun Oil Silicone Lubricant

"Contrary to its name, Gun Oil does not have any oil in it — it's a slick silicone-based lube that, unlike oils, is perfectly safe for all latex condoms.

"This lube is hypoallergenic, so it's perfect for even all of you with extra sensitive skin.

"Not only is this lube safe — but it also has some ingredients with added health benefits. Aloe vera prevents inflammation, while vitamin E revitalizes your skin." $50, She Vibe.

2. Pjur Analyse Me

"Pjur Analyse Me is specifically designed for anal play and has all the qualities a good lubricant should have. Don't be fooled by the 'developed for her' title — it's perfectly good for guys as well. This lube is silicone-based, so it lasts longer and you don't have to reapply it constantly. It's also slippery, which will protect you from injuries and pain. A little goes a long way, so even though it's not cheap, it will save you money in the long run. Also, this lube has a relaxing effect. Anal can be a bit tricky — you have to learn to relax your sphincter muscles to enjoy it. This lubricant includes jojoba oil, which helps you relax your muscles and also soothes and hydrates your skin." $24, She Vibe.

1. Überlube

"Uberlube is a very high-quality product. You will see that immediately after getting it on your fingers. It's extra smooth and slippery without getting too thick and feels great on your skin. Uberlube is very long-lasting... and you will rarely feel the need to reapply. If you do, the pump on the bottle makes dispensing easy and mess-free." $19, She Vibe.